If 2016 is the year of healing the wound, 2017 is the year of new beginning. And with a new beginning comes the argent task of leaving certain things and people behind.
Leave toxic people behind. If the friendship or relationship is no longer making you happy or benefiting you in any fashion, it is time to let them go. If you are consistently upset, it is time to let them go. If you are consistently hurt in the process of knowing them, it is time to let them go. Pack your bags and move on.
Stop checking up on people who hurt you. They are not doing the same for you. I can promise you that they are not thinking about you. Do not grant them the pleasure of living rent free in your mind. Block them on everything. Delete them on everything. Move on. Keep going. You are both out of each other’s lives for a reason. Accept that, respect that, and carry on.
Leave toxic situations immediately. Do not stew or ruminate in them any longer. Move on. Leave. If a job or situation is making you miserable, do not be afraid to pick up and leave. Plan your escape if you are allowed the luxury, and leave. Do not burn the bridge, but leave a flashlight at the edge. The longer you stay, the longer the damage is done to your mental health and well-being. You deserve significantly more.
Be less selfless. Care for people. Be kind to other people. Think of other people. But stop leaving yourself last, stop leaving yourself in the dust. Remember to take time for yourself more often. Comfort yourself more often. Take moments of silence and alone time for yourself. Put yourself first more. The more that you remember to take time to take care of yourself, like really take care of yourself, the healthier you will be. And the better able to take care of others, the ones around you, the ones that you love, you will be. You will be a better asset to yourself and the world around you.
And also you just fucking deserve it, okay.
Leave fear behind. Stop wondering about what if. What if I fail. What if I’m terrible. What if I can’t. My father used to tell me that you should always take a risk because the worst thing that can happen is they tell you no.
The worst thing they can do is tell you no.
Stop wondering what if they tell you no. Just find out for sure.
Just fucking do it.